Hey, this is a serious relationship, right? This means you are supposed to talk about things in-depth, open up, be honest and grow more intimate. So, if I am right about serious relationships—that the people in them communicate well—by my definition, you are NOT in one.

This whole thing about Spain is a very serious issue. Is he or is he not going to move back to Spain? Would he consider staying in the United States for you? Would you consider moving to Spain? Would he want to be with you whether or not he moves?

These are critical questions and not asking them will not make them go away. You need to have an honest discussion with him—probably several honest discussions. You need to talk about your hopes and dreams for the relationship and find out if he is committed to you or not. If he is committed, then you need to talk about Spain. If he is not committed, Spain is not important because he is not serious about you.

Don't hide. Talk. If it’s bad news, knowing it sooner rather than later is important. You need to protect your heart. If it is good news, then this is just the beginning of all kinds of things the two of you need to talk about—if you are going to have the kind of relationship that can go the distance.

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington and author or co-author of many books, including: Finding Your Perfect Match, Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong and The Great Sex Weekend. She was the "Sex and Health" columnist for Glamour for seven years and has appeared frequently on national programs, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Dateline and Dr. Phil. She is currently the relationship expert at PerfectMatch.com, and lives in Seattle.