Okay, you’d be surprised, but this happens more than you think—perhaps not to the degree and distance you’re talking about, but in this world where people up and move at the drop of a hat, it’s not uncommon.

There are many things to consider here, and I think the answer to this question has to come from within you. Is this someone you could see yourself with for the rest of your life? That first and foremost is the most important element here.

I commend him for being upfront about his plans and while I’m definitely a live-for-the-now kind of person, if he’s 29 and plans to return to Spain when he turns 30—you owe it to both him and yourself to bring it up now rather than later. Who knows, he may have already changed his plans, but you won’t know until you ask.

I would add that if his plans are still to return to Spain when turning 30, I think it would be best for the both of you to end things romantically, I know it’s easier said than done, but U.S to Spain is about as big of a long-distance relationship as you can get, and you must know deep down that it could never work with that much distance involved.

Mike, 30, is a general assignment reporter with an NBC affiliate in Colorado. While he’s currently single, he has been in long-term, committed relationships with both his cat Marley and the Boston Red Sox.