Relationship Advice: Relationship Trouble

Things started out great. Your first date was wonderful and it was smooth sailing toward “relationship” land. But lately you've been asking yourself, "Is my relationship in trouble?" Maybe things have cooled off or you’re just not as happy as you used to be. As much as you hate to admit, it may be time to give him his walking papers—or at least make some changes. If you’re not sure, check out these eight signs to see if you're in relationship trouble:

1. You feel like a long-distance couple, even when he’s sitting right next to you.
If it feels like there’s a divide, or even a whole ocean between you, you're in relationship trouble. Maybe you used to be able to tell everything he was thinking, but now he’s got his poker face up. You can try and figure out the cause, but realize that sometimes guys distance themselves because they’ve already ended the relationship in their minds but don’t know how to tell you.

2. When you think about him, those warm fuzzy feelings you used to have are gone.
Quick, picture your boyfriend. Did you smile or brighten up even a little? Did you think of the time he surprised you with a candlelight dinner or the time he forgot to take the trash out (again)? If the only image of him you can conjure up is a negative one, then the relationship might be finished in your mind too.

3. Your sex life is … wait, what sex life?
Can’t remember the last time you two had sex—or the last time you even wanted to? Yeah, that’s a bad sign your relationship is in trouble. Every couple goes through the occasional dry spell or slow period, but a complete lack of desire in him, or willingness to work up some desire, means the relationship is probably over in the bedroom and in life.

4. You can’t remember the last time you two really kissed.
Even if you still are having somewhat-obligatory sex, there could be crucial intimacy missing and that spells serious trouble for a relationship. Kissing is a good example. It’s something we can easily forget after awhile but it’s a great way to feel connected. Try and bring back those loving feelings, but if it doesn’t work—and the kissing embargo continues—then kiss him goodbye.