3. Your sex life is … wait, what sex life?
Can’t remember the last time you two had sex—or the last time you even wanted to? Yeah, that’s a bad sign you're in relationship trouble. Every couple goes through the occasional dry spell or slow period, but a complete lack of desire in him, or willingness to work up some desire, means the relationship is probably over in the bedroom and in life.

4. You can’t remember the last time you two really kissed.
Even if you still are having somewhat-obligatory sex, there could be crucial intimacy missing. Kissing is a good example. It’s something we can easily forget after awhile but it’s a great way to feel connected. Try and bring back those loving feelings, but if it doesn’t work—and the kissing embargo continues—then kiss him goodbye.

5. You spend lots of time together—but fight during most of it.
If your neighbors are complaining about the near-constant yelling from your apartment, or you’ve been giving him the silent treatment for so long you don’t even remember why you started, then you’ve been fighting way too much. Every couple fights; if they didn’t they’d never get to experience make-up sex. But if you spend more time fighting than not, then you have a real problem. Couples therapy might help, but if neither of you wants to go then the only other way to end the fighting is to end the relationship.