Drama Queen: a woman who is over-emotional, irrational and over-the-top with her reactions and interpretations of behavior and events; emotionally high-maintenance.
 



Personally, I hate labels, and “drama queen” is the worst, especially coming from a partner. Sometimes it seems calling us “drama queens” is an easy way out when they know they’re guilty of something. Other times, and I hate to admit this, it’s just warranted. How do we know if we’re bringing unnecessary drama instead of clarity to a thorny situation? Perhaps probing into some of these coupled-life scenarios might help us draw the line between drama queen and keen judge.

Scenario No. 1: The Toilet Seat
We complain about this time and again. Can’t he get it through his head to put the seat down? We’ll rant about how inconsiderate it is, while he counters with “stop being dramatic, it’s not that big a deal.”

Is it? In the grand scheme of things, no. However, let’s think about why it’s inconsiderate. For one, there’s a practical reason—who wants to fall in the toilet half-asleep in the middle of the night (that’s happened to me and it wasn’t pretty for me or him!). Here we have a real reason why it’s an issue. Then there’s the part about not acknowledging our (female) presence. It’s like our form of territory just as leaving the seat up may be for our partners. “He’s not living with his brothers anymore,” says Monica about her live-in beau leaving the seat up. “He has to recognize he’s living with a woman now.”