Verdict: It’s not a cause for a break up, but if it bothers you there’s no reason you can’t “fall” in the toilet the next time the seat’s up to make your point loud and clear.

Scenario No. 2: Code-switching
It’s not unusual for coupled individuals to act differently with their buddies—it’s what we call “code-switching.” But sometimes our partners can take code-switching to another level. Recently-engaged Tamara knows this well: “I overheard my fiancé talking with his boys—he didn’t know I could hear—about women as if he was a pimp! It made me question if I really knew who I was going to marry.” How did Tamara’s fiancé respond when she confronted him? “He said I was overreacting and making a fuss about nothing because that’s what guys do.”
Are we overreacting? Screw the saying, “boys will be boys.” If our partners make remarks that make them seem like totally different people, it’s definitely reason for concern. These “new” sides can potentially hurt us. And if they’re just “playing along” with the guys, how do we know these types of play don’t extend outside of conversation? Tamara adds, “I told him, ‘Now how am I supposed to know you’re not doing something wrong when I’m not around?”

Verdict: Peer pressure is a bitch, and while we may trust them, we also want our men to show us they won’t fall victim to it. No drama queens here, we’re being highly logical.

Scenario No. 3: Mommy-Maid Complex
Dirty socks on the living room floor, beers on the coffee table and an ice-cream container on the kitchen counter—how can our partners live like this? When we share an abode or they do it at our places, it’s hard not to get worked up and throw a jab, “Since when did we hire a f@!#ing maid?!”