Are we being nags? This is tough. We didn’t like our mothers nagging us about chores, so we certainly don’t want to remind our partners of their mothers. But as newlywed Tracey says, “I don’t want to be his ‘mommy,’ not having him do anything as if he was the Golden Child.” Truth is, there are lots of men used to the mommy-maid treatment, so we can’t bite off their heads from the start—socialization is another bitch. However, if after clearly establishing a household pact, he’s faulty too many times, then we need to evaluate our partners’ entitlement complexes.

Verdict: We’ll be nags and our partners “mama’s boys” forever if they keep on slipping and we let them keep slipping on these pacts.

Final Verdict: It never hurts to step back and play devil’s advocate with ourselves on whether we’re really being drama queens. But we should also keep in mind how difficult accepting responsibility is as well—it’s probably why we hear “drama queen” way too often.