Don't be a Psycho!

You met the man of your dreams and are falling hopelessly in love. Everything seems perfect. There’s just one thing standing in the way of total bliss: His ex-girlfriend. He swears he doesn't have feelings for her, and you believe him, but you still can’t help but hate her....jealousy?

Meghann knew this feeling all too well when she first started dating her boyfriend. “I wasn’t really concerned about him having interaction with his ex-girlfriend, who he had a ‘fairytale-like’ relationship with. I was just jealous of what they had together,” she admits. In fact, Meghann confesses to googling her guy’s ex-girlfriend in hopes of learning more about her. “I searched on MySpace and Friendster-type pages to see if she was listed. I had to learn more about this girl who was once the love of his life,” says Meghann.

Jennifer took her jealousy a step further. When she was dating her now ex-husband, a letter from his ex arrived in the mail. “I didn't want him to read it. So I ripped it up, threw it away and never told him about it,” she admits.

Like Meghann and Jennifer, many jealous women resort to spying, snooping and, in some extreme cases, following their guy on a night out to make sure he’s really guzzling beers with just the guys. But beware: If you’re caught doing things like checking his email behind his back or listening to his answering machine messages from your cell phone, he’ll likely feel that you’re invading his privacy—or, worse, that you’re harboring an obsessive “fatal attraction” for him.