“Before anything happened between us, there was nothing for me to feel guilty about, and no reason to tell her anything…So I was leaving the difficult bit for the future. Then, once we got close, I had to either tell her the truth, with the consequence that I may never enjoy intimacy with her, break it off before she found out or, eventually, have to tell her anyway.”

For Sharon and Anna the lie was the deal breaker; when the truth came out, they walked out. For Sarah, well, she did walk away after one night of sinful sex. And if Lindsay is the only evidence that a little white lie won’t hurt your relationship, watch how she’ll react once she finds out about Jennifer.

Bottom line, ladies: He thinks he is simplifying his life. We know he is complicating it. So do what you need to do. Ask him the tough questions, find out if there’s a wife or ex-wife in his closet and get him to look you in the eye when he speaks. We know that honesty isn’t always the kindest policy, but the truth will take both of you further.


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