Because you inevitably will rely on your boyfriend for many things, it is good to talk about why this is, and what you are doing to change it.

Always remember who you are, and who he fell in love with.
That night while I was crying at the diner, my friend said: “If you hate yourself, how is he supposed to love you?” Damn her for being so intelligent. She didn't recognize the weeping girl in front of her, and neither did I. The following week I went to a baseball game and enrolled in dance classes – and Kiefer Sutherland bought me a drink. (Technically, he bought everyone in the bar a drink, but that's beside the point.) And, as silly as it sounds, at the time that was all both Marc and I needed.

Amy and her boyfriend reunited a few years later and surprisingly Amy is ready to relocate for love again. She says, "If you're going to take a risk in life, what better than to do it in the pursuit of real meaningful love? If you want something, you have to risk something; and to me, that defines being fully alive."