CON: The older guy doesn’t know Buffy from Britney.
It’s not that he doesn’t enjoy clubbing with you, it’s just that bumping and grinding doesn’t really become him anymore. (And you should be grateful for that). Lucinda, 29, who dated a guy 13 years her senior, realized how different their pop culture worlds were when she brought him home to meet her parents. The weirdest part of their relationship? “He bonded WAAY too well with my dad over pop culture from the sixties.”

PRO: Younger men carry less baggage.
He hasn’t been hurt, had his heart broken or been mistreated by women, so he’s not yet jaded. Barbara, a woman in her 50s, agrees. “[Younger men] are sweeter and kinder — plus, they’re less selfish in bed!”

PRO: The older guy knows how to treat a lady.
This guy is done driving his parents’ old Honda, and he’s not sharing an apartment with three guys either. By now, he’s probably created a stable world filled with all the things he loves, and he’s ready to share them with you. Jennifer, 32, who married a man 14 years her senior says, “Dating an older man means dating someone your age — with better toys!”

CON: The young guy ain’t looking for a wife.
If settling down and getting hitched is what you’re looking for, just remember that those thoughts probably haven’t even entered his mind. In fact, he’s probably still trying to figure out who he is and where he’s going. And sister — if you’re already there, it’s time to move on.

CON: The older guy probably fears commitment.
If he’s still single after all these years, there must be a reason. Yes, he may not have found “the right one” yet, but seriously — why is he still single? Commitment-phobic? Emotionally stunted? You might want to check out his collection of baggage before you travel any further on this journey with him.