A better strategy for women is to get clear on what you want to accomplish first before having that talk. Take a walk. Call a girlfriend. Then raise your concerns in a straightforward manner.

No. 2: Don’t Take Offense to a Man in His Cave.
If a man is comatose on the couch, silently staring at the screen and showing as much life as a piece of furniture, don’t be alarmed. This is normal behavior. “Men can just hibernate, we can just zone out in a vegetative state in front of SportsCenter,” Pete says. I know this silence can drive women crazy. ‘What is he thinking? What’s wrong? Why doesn’t he say something?’ Please don’t worry. Ninety-nine percent of the time it’s not about you. He’s probably quiet simply because he doesn’t feel like talking. “Men need to go into a cave once in a while,” Mansfield says. “It’s a huge step forward for any couple to recognize that.”

No. 3: Don’t Be Critical.
Say you’re out for dinner, and your guy is inappropriately flirting with the waitress. You’re hurt. You’re threatened. And so later you lash out, calling him “rude” and “inconsiderate” and lots of other choice things.