Marriage Hope: Our arguments won’t hurt as much.
Every time we fight, I cry. Every time we in fury threaten to be perfectly capable of living without one another, I take it as seriously as the first time I heard those words. I thought before our engagement that I would be able to fight “better” if he had promised himself to me forever. I thought the same when we were going to get married. Guess what? Fighting sucks. But, as my friend Christina says, “Arguing once in a while about the little things is good. It keeps you passionate and makes for good make-up sex.”

Marriage Fear: I won’t be able to have male friends.
“Of course you can have male friends!” says Katie, who has been married for four years. “You just have to have firm boundaries and be honest with your spouse about your relationships. Just remember if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, then you shouldn't be doing it!!” My husband and I face this problem occasionally, but the more secure we are in our relationship, the less he cares that my friend James wants to lend me his porn and I forgive the occasional catch-up dinner with his female friends. Let us emphasize the word occasional.