How you think about this situation matters a great deal. The first option smacks of desperation and an overwhelming desire to prove, once and for all, that you are not a total loser who can’t catch a man. Which is not really a good reason to inflict a wedding band version of the Alley Cat or your aunt Lulu’s Jell-O mold salad on anyone, no matter how you try to justify it.

Whereas wanting to give this man a chance to know you better is, well, a little more reasonable, don’t you think? Because not only will bringing him along allow him to get a glimpse of your real life, it will allow you to see how he responds to that new information.

“I’ll get it!”
You’re at his house. The phone rings and he’s in the shower/taking the garbage out/changing the oil in your car. Do you answer it?

Well, that depends. First of all, how long have you been going out? If you haven’t agreed to see only each other, how comfortable are you with the chance it could be another woman? If the situation was reversed, would you want him answering your phone? This is a delicate issue in the beginning of a relationship. It raises the specters of privacy, familiarity, propriety.