The safest way to handle it is to tell him the phone is ringing and ask if you should answer. If he says, “The machine is on,” try not to succumb to the temptation to listen when the caller leaves a message.

Of course, if he’s out picking up dinner or something, you can’t ask, can you? In which case, let the machine pick up. If the machine isn’t on, whoever it is will call back.

Access.
What about keys to each other’s houses, alarm codes and things like that? WAITing is vital regarding these issues. You have to be clear about all the ramifications involved. After all, you don’t want a man you’re dating casually to have unlimited access to your home, do you?

What if he gives you a key to his house so you can feed his goldfish while he’s on vacation? Honey, if you didn’t go on vacation with him, you’d better hand that key over the first chance you get. If he hands it right back, then make sure you know the reason why.

Snooping.
Don’t do it. Snooping never pays, even though the desire is irresistible. Believe me, snooping just isn’t a good idea. Really. Not good at all. Never.