Congratulations - you've fallen in love! Sure, you've been in love before, but this time it feels right. To take your relationship to the next level, you want to move in with your man. He's a great guy who, fingers crossed, you can see yourself marrying.

Hold it right there, sister. I'm a man, and because I care about you, I want to let you in on a little secret: Men and women often aren't on the same page when they move in together. In fact, he may be in an entirely different book in a library halfway across town.

Living with anyone (man or woman) can equal drama, but the stakes are a lot higher when you're living with your boyfriend. Your whole relationship is at risk. I don't pretend to be a total expert on these things, so I spoke with a few counselors. All of them said that living with your man can be a great arrangement provided - and this is the important part - that you have open communication and talk honestly about what you expect for the future.

"Living together without talking about expectations is a bad idea," says Margaret Shapiro, a relationship counselor with the Council for Relationships in Philadelphia.

So before moving in ask yourself what you want, and then find out if your man is on the same page. What's he really thinking in that food- and sports-obsessed head of his? Is he truly making a bigger commitment to you, or does he like the idea of splitting the bills and having someone cook for him? Is he gearing up for marriage, or is he just sick of you nagging him about taking your relationship to "another level?" Find out.

The truth is this: Living together is not necessarily an ideal situation for a man. Sure, you're now in his bed every night, but he also has to fight with you for the TV remote and listen to you complain about his farting, belching and all the other unattractive activities that we men indulge in when we're at home.