Are you mania?
  • To you, being in love is synonymous with anxiety, even obsession.
  • You’re capable of losing weight, sleep and sometimes your sanity when you’re truly in love.
  • It takes a long while for you to recover from a breakup — inevitably you’re the dumped, not the dumper.
Are you pragma?
  • You have a shopping list of criteria that you expect your partner to fulfill.
  • You believe you can master any goal with some common sense, including a successful relationship.
  • You’d never end up with someone who didn’t fit in with your ambitions for your life and your social group.
Eros lovers have an idealized physical image of their lover. But equally they believe they are on the planet to love one other person unstintingly—they’ve just got to find them! They stay loyal as long as romance is high on the agenda. If you’re with an erotic lover, don’t forget romance. Ludus lovers are often frustrated with aspects of their lives and are unwilling to commit themselves in a love relationship. A pure ludus will be concerned about causing hurt and warn lovers in advance that commitment is going to be shaky to put it mildly. Some are less than scrupulous. Ludics avoid seeing the partner too often at the beginning of the relationship and even if they marry, there will often be distance and secrets. Love is a banquet and they want to try it all. This drives erotic and manic partners mad and their attitude bores and scares ludics.