I think if you’re nagging a lot, it is actually a bigger relationship issue you need to talk about because it is not just that you want something, it’s that he’s putting you in a position where you have to be persistent and desperate about it. You’re not getting the respect you deserve, and nobody should have that happen.

How can we avoid coming off as a nag?
1. Don’t hit him first thing with all the things that are on your mind that you want to talk about. It is important to begin with, “you don’t have to answer me now,” or “we can talk about this later, but I wanted you to know something.”  I think most guys are willing to have the conversation, they just don’t want to feel attacked and they don’t want to talk about it at that moment.

2. Try making your partner aware of your thoughts on nagging. Say, “I don’t want to be put in the position where I have to nag you,” or “it’s not my style to ask constantly, so I’d appreciate a kind of dialogue.”