As the primary breadwinner, though, Kristin has learned not only to be financially supportive but emotionally supportive too:

“I think in any situation like this, it is important to remember that as husband and wife, you are a team,” she says. “We have hopefully established something that will give us more flexibility with our family someday and I’ll be able to pursue my dreams as well.”
Timelines keep you both in line.
Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein author of Why Can't You Read My Mind? agrees with Kristin that the couple should think like a team. “They need to make sure they have a lot of trust,” he explains, “And that they enter into this with a “we” mentality.” Together, they should set goals.

“Everybody does better with a timeline,” says Bernstein, who suggests having check-ins with each other, but not daily. “Do it either every couple of weeks or every couple of months—whatever is best for the couple,” he says.