Don’t drop bombs.
Promise both him and yourself not to throw the, “I left my life behind for you!” bomb into every argument. He is aware of your sacrifice and reminding him will not make him feel sorrier for you, it will make him feel sorry for himself. Marc and I made a deal long before I moved out to California: In order for our relationship to work, it had to be on its own terms, not out of his sense of responsibility.

Be reasonable in your expectations.
Your boyfriend can be your best friend and the love of your life; but he cannot be your girlfriend, parent, job consultant, chauffeur, encyclopedia and psychiatrist. “I didn’t have a car, a job – anything,” says Amy, whose relationship fell apart four months after the move. "It’s an uncomfortable power balance because you’re on their turf, they know everything and you know nothing. And you don’t want to feel clingy, but what other choice do you have?”