“I’ll get it!”
You’re at his house. The phone rings and he’s in the shower/taking the garbage out/changing the oil in your car. Do you answer it?

Well, that depends. First of all, how long have you been going out? If you haven’t agreed to see only each other, how comfortable are you with the chance it could be another woman? If the situation was reversed, would you want him answering your phone? This is a delicate issue in the beginning of a relationship. It raises the specters of privacy, familiarity, propriety.

The safest way to handle it is to tell him the phone is ringing and ask if you should answer. If he says, “The machine is on,” try not to succumb to the temptation to listen when the caller leaves a message.

Of course, if he’s out picking up dinner or something, you can’t ask, can you? In which case, let the machine pick up. If the machine isn’t on, whoever it is will call back.

Access.
What about keys to each other’s houses, alarm codes and things like that? WAITing is vital regarding these issues. You have to be clear about all the ramifications involved. After all, you don’t want a man you’re dating casually to have unlimited access to your home, do you?

What if he gives you a key to his house so you can feed his goldfish while he’s on vacation? Honey, if you didn’t go on vacation with him, you’d better hand that key over the first chance you get. If he hands it right back, then make sure you know the reason why.

Snooping.
Don’t do it. Snooping never pays, even though the desire is irresistible. Believe me, snooping just isn’t a good idea. Really. Not good at all. Never.

Because once you’ve snooped, you know. And you have to either admit you know (which is embarrassing because the only way you could know is because you snooped) or walk around knowing you know and you can’t let him know you know.