When a reader had a question about dealing with a guy who was a little too fast in bed, Savvy Miss turned to sex and relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D., for his expert opinion.

Dear Ian,
How do I deal with a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation?

As someone who has personally grappled with and, ahem, overcome, PE, I can tell you firsthand that it's no fun being too fast in the sack. When I was struggling with PE, I felt terribly alone, but according to a survey of 900 women conducted by Cosmopolitan and MensHealth.com, nearly two-thirds of women have had sex with a man who experienced premature ejaculation. In my experience as a sex therapist, men with PE report less satisfaction and more anxiety about their sexual relationships. It can wreck their confidence and cause them to avoid new relationships altogether.

But misery doesn't deserve company, especially yours. So what can you do with a guy who's quick on the trigger? Follow my signature three-step process: — Please, Squeeze, At Ease — to help him step on the brakes and savor the trip:

Step 1: Please
Look, if your guy suffers from PE, you don't have to get into a whole angst-ridden conversation about it that's going to make both of you feel like getting on a "fast track" away from each other. In fact, you can work on his problem without him ever knowing you know it's a problem. And you can make it a whole lot of fun.

Tell your guy you want him to experience the ecstatic pleasures of male multiple orgasms: You're going to bring him as close to the edge as possible, but he needs to help you by letting you know when he's about to go over. By bringing him close to the point of ejaculatory inevitability, but not past it, he will experience one or two pleasurable orgasmic contractions, which will expel some of the sexual tension that has built up in his pelvic region. Make a game out of bringing him in and out of his "peak zone" and you're killing two birds with one stone: giving him the pleasure of male multiple orgasms and helping him last longer. And if he does come too quickly (which is bound to happen as you both get the hang of this), don't make a big deal out of it—it's all part of the fun.