When dealing with a premie, some ideal ways of pleasing him include manual and oral stimulation (which keep you close to the action), as well as getting on top during intercourse. Not only does the female superior position help you to enjoy sex by letting you press your clitoris directly against his pelvis, but with you on top, and in control, there's not only less "Sturm und Drang," but also less "thrust and bang."

Step 2: Squeeze
Now that you've done some pleasing, it's time for some squeezing. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. Squeeze right below the head of his penis. This technique, developed by Masters and Johnson, pushes blood out of the penis and suppresses the ejaculatory response.

Step 3: At Ease
After you've given him a good squeeze, back off his penis and go back to hugging and kissing, and focus on stimulating other body parts. Give it a good 30 to 60 seconds before you return to any form of direct genital stimulation. Not only does the "at ease" period let him relax and cool down, it's also a chance for him to practice some pleasing on you. Premature ejaculators are typically very anxious about wanting their partners to experience orgasms and are generally all too happy to give you manual and oral stimulation or introduce a sex toy into the action. It's all part of the sexual courtesy that was at the heart of my book She Comes First and part of a philosophy that allows a premature ejaculator to develop confidence and control while simultaneously pleasuring you. With a premature ejaculator, take the emphasis off of simultaneous orgasm and focus on serial orgasms: one after the other, you first.