When a Savvy Miss member had the following question, we turned to Gloria Brame for her expert opinion.

Lately I’ve been bored with sex. My boyfriend is traditional so every time we do it, we do it on the bed. I’m spontaneous and like to do it anytime, anywhere. One night, after dinner and drinks, I tried to seduce him in a public park. The next day, he told me I should be careful when I drink. I didn’t tell him that I would have fooled around in the park sober. He’s my ideal man in every way, except as a sexual partner. Are we doomed?

Do you know why your boyfriend doesn't want to be more adventurous? There are a lot of reasons why people resist creative sex. They may be self-conscious about their body, shy or inexperienced; or they could lack the self-confidence to experiment with new things. Have you tried explaining that you need more spice to keep things interesting?

If his hang-up runs deeper and he has religious or moral issues about how people are supposed to enjoy sex, you could be in for a lifetime of sexual frustration with this man. It's time to rethink what you really mean by "ideal.” If he can't satisfy you sexually, is he really ideal for you?