bedroom manners, sex etiquette

When most of us hear the word “manners,” we think of saying please and thank you and keeping our elbows off the dinner table. But, turns out, manners actually apply to the bedroom and are imperative for great sex. Here’s the 411 on everything you need to know about good sex etiquette.

Are we both entitled to our favorite sex position?
He wants doggy-style and you want to be on top. Who’s going to get their way? The good news—orgasm trumps mere preference, so you’re more likely to get your way.

“There’s something to be said for sexual variety and trying new positions and not getting locked in, but both men and women during sex are entitled to orgasm and there are some positions that help them orgasm better than others,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., FAACS and author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

Is it polite to fake orgasms?
Mary Mitchell, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Etiquette, says that it’s not. In fact, it’s better to simply be honest—but in a nice way. You don’t have to bluntly tell him you didn’t climax, you can tell him that you still had fun but next time it would be great to do more.