Does oral sex have to be reciprocal?
Fair’s fair and if you expect to receive, you should probably expect to give.

“I don’t think any woman should settle for a sexual double standard, where she’s the only one giving, and I think the reverse is also true,” Kerner says.

What’s more polite—spitting or swallowing?
Etiquette experts agree that neither is more polite than the other; it’s really what you want to do that’s most important and guys should respect your decision.

If we don’t want to swallow, where’s the best place to spit it out?
“You can get up and excuse yourself and go into the bathroom and do it. You can have a towel nearby. We’re not really talking about spitting like spitting on the street, just letting it out of your mouth into a towel, so it doesn’t have to be a vulgar act of spitting. Getting up after it and going into the bathroom is totally cool,” Kerner says.

Is it rude not to kiss after oral sex?
Mitchell says a quick swipe of the person’s mouth on their arm should solve the problem.