Be very careful of the frail male ego. Even though we are empowered, sassy and enlightened women, we have to go gently with our guys, letting them down easily when it comes to what is and isn’t working in bed. Just remember, you deserve to have an authentic orgasm with your boyfriend—and so does he.

All the best, Dr. Patti

Patti Britton, Ph.D., aka “Dr. Patti,” is a sexologist/sex coach and the President-Elect of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. A frequent media guest and popular workshop speaker, Dr. Patti is also the author of The Art of Sex Coaching, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Sensual Massage, and The Adventures of Her in France. More about Dr. Patti can be found at www.yoursexcoach.com. Photo © istock/Dolgachov