Even if you masturbate regularly and are having trouble climaxing during partner sex, it may not be the fault of your self-love trysts. You might have become accustomed to one type of stimulation and your partner hasn’t mastered it. Take some time to show your partner what you like by putting his hand on top of yours while you masturbate. Or, indulge in a bit of mutual masturbation while you act the voyeur with each other—all the while taking mental notes about each other’s technique! Also, if you’re expecting to orgasm during intercourse you might find, like many other women, that you don’t get enough clitoral stimulation. You can remedy that by masturbating during sex or slipping on a hands-free vibrator like the Sweetheart.
Anne Semans has worked with sex toy businesses for over fifteen years and has written several books on sex including The Many Joys of Sex Toys and The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. Raised in an environment where sex was forbidden, Anne has found her work to be exciting and incredibly liberating.