A Vibrator
Who says vibrators are strictly for your alone time? Men love watching women pleasure themselves — so let him be a voyeur while you have your fun. Or you can let him try.

An (Erotic) Book
Put down your Nicholas Sparks or Nietzsche and pick up an arousing book that both you and your partner can read together. The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sex Secrets Every Couple Should Know breaks down techniques for maximum pleasure. Even if you can’t figure them out, the mere act of reading it together will be an instant turn on.

A Firm Hand
Just think of it as an erotic step up from the traditional booty tap. It may seem a bit naughty, but if you happen to have a paddle in your home, then it’s worth giving it a try. Start out with a gentle tap, and have him reciprocate. And if you’re comfortable with S&M, look into an embroidered paddle.

Take Control
Make your partner relinquish control for the night by taking a commanding lead. Greet him wearing only a robe and deliberately untie his necktie, then wrap it around his eyes, as a blindfold. Lead him on a winded path into the bedroom, and when you reach your destination, slowly untie your robe. Let him feel what he can’t see. Then, use the belt of the robe to bind his wrists. Your sexual control and his powerlessness will make both of you never forget it.

A Surprise
Take a walk on the wilder side and visit a safe, private, online adult store like Cleo’s Boutique. Perhaps you’ll find a Kama Sutra game, a flavored lubricant or a candy bra. Whatever you choose naughty or nice, it’s guaranteed to bring some spice back to your sex life.