• Prolong non-intercourse sex play so that you raise your level of arousal to near orgasmic heights before attempting penetration. (See why it's so important to know what "the verge" feels like?) Then apply your fingers, or his, to keep up the clitoral stimulation while he's thrusting.

  • Try verbally sharing fantasies during sex. Hot talk might increase arousal exponentially and create the "head trip" that pushes you over.

  • Some women love being on top (known in porn lingo as the "cowgirl" position) to control the angle of penetration and add more friction to the clitoris. Others prefer variations, like the man sitting in a chair while she straddles him, facing away (the "reverse cowgirl"), or even spooning positions where he can reach around to stroke her clitoris.

  • Try using a small vibrator on your clit while your boyfriend enters you from behind. If you're on your hands and knees, prop pillows beneath you to support the arm holding the vibrator so that it doesn't tire.