Then again, if you really let yourself feel free about your turn-ons, it could also be that women ARE an erotic object in your book. If so, you may want to pursue this option either in talking with a partner about being with women, indulge in hot solo play with another woman present, or explore it in the flesh. I suggest that you watch some lesbian porn or read some of the new genre of lesbian erotica. I am the host of a DVD, “Women Loving Women,”—each segment begins with an erotic poem by Sappho, and shows two different women expressing their unique sexual patterns. You may want to see two women in action and evaluate if this turns you on even more than just gazing at still pictures on a page.

There is no shame in being lesbian or bisexual. Sexuality with a woman, in your mind or in the bed next to you, may open up the aura of the forbidden for you, or even some part of you that you want to access but would not allow yourself to before. I want you to consider this: If this is a huge turn-on for you, it’s time to embrace and accept it. Don’t run away from something that is giving you such pleasure. Release any guilt or shame about it, and celebrate it to the max.