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Q&A with Sue Johanson: Sex and Body Image
Savvy Member: I constantly seek validation from my significant others. How do I leave behind the “Honey, do I look fat?”
Sue Johanson: You’re not going to believe your boyfriend telling you your body is beautiful. You’re not going to believe him. And you’re going to get involved in the game of “yes, but.” “Yes, but my butt is too fat,” “yes, but my boobs are too small,” “yes, but I have cellulite, I have stretch marks.” And “yes, butts” are self-defeating, so don’t go to him because you know damn well what he’s going to say. He’s not going to say “Well, actually honey, I can’t stand your stretch marks.” So give up on it, lady.
Savvy Member: With all the attention being brought to a healthy body image and eating disorders today, do you think body image issues have become more or less prevalent?
Sue Johanson: Less. Now we’ve got all this publicity about models on the runway being too skinny and wanting models to be a little fleshier. Women who are a little heavier are finally starting to feel good about themselves.
For the last 30 years Sue Johanson has provided frank and honest sexual education to thousands of men and women through her lectures, radio programs, and Oxygen Network’s Talk Sex with Sue Johanson. Aside from her duties as a sexual educator, Sue is a Registered Nurse, a mother and a grandmother. She continues to tour universities and special events, lecturing on sexuality and answering audience questions that run the gamut from anal sex to zygotes. She has also written extensively about sexual problems and concerns. Penguin Books has published three of her works: Talk Sex
, Sex is Perfectly Natural, But Not Naturally Perfect and Sex, Sex, and More Sex. Opening photo © istock/Maciej Laska; Sue Johanson photo © Oxygen Media/David Leyes.
Sue Johanson: You’re not going to believe your boyfriend telling you your body is beautiful. You’re not going to believe him. And you’re going to get involved in the game of “yes, but.” “Yes, but my butt is too fat,” “yes, but my boobs are too small,” “yes, but I have cellulite, I have stretch marks.” And “yes, butts” are self-defeating, so don’t go to him because you know damn well what he’s going to say. He’s not going to say “Well, actually honey, I can’t stand your stretch marks.” So give up on it, lady.
Savvy Member: With all the attention being brought to a healthy body image and eating disorders today, do you think body image issues have become more or less prevalent?
Sue Johanson: Less. Now we’ve got all this publicity about models on the runway being too skinny and wanting models to be a little fleshier. Women who are a little heavier are finally starting to feel good about themselves.
For the last 30 years Sue Johanson has provided frank and honest sexual education to thousands of men and women through her lectures, radio programs, and Oxygen Network’s Talk Sex with Sue Johanson. Aside from her duties as a sexual educator, Sue is a Registered Nurse, a mother and a grandmother. She continues to tour universities and special events, lecturing on sexuality and answering audience questions that run the gamut from anal sex to zygotes. She has also written extensively about sexual problems and concerns. Penguin Books has published three of her works: Talk Sex
, Sex is Perfectly Natural, But Not Naturally Perfect and Sex, Sex, and More Sex. Opening photo © istock/Maciej Laska; Sue Johanson photo © Oxygen Media/David Leyes.
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| Olivia -- Tucson | |
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It's so true! I have so many friends that are afraid to really let go in bed because they're worried about what they look like.
| lauramc70 -- Los Angeles | |
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I think it is very irresponsible for a doctor to make mean and genaralized statements by implying that all fashion models are anorexic. When I was younger I was as thin as some of these women and was that way because I have a fast metabolism which is genetic. Now at 36 and 5'7 I still only weigh 125, I eat whatever I want and exersize minimally just to stay toned. I'm not saying only very thin women should be models, why can't there be models who are all shapes and sizes like the general population? I have been accused many times of being anorexic or bulimic mostly by mean and nasty former female co-workers. But also by a very ignorant nurse in jr. high school who acted as if I had committed some kind of crime by being thin. These accusations were very hurtful to me and these women seemed to want me to have an eating disorder so they could feel good about why I was thin and about themselves. Dr. Johanson also talks meanly about how models' bodies look when they are naked. Should some of these women and girls have eating disorders they are going to extremely insecure and to talk negatively about the way they look will only make their conditions worse. Women or girls with these disorders should have our sympathy because they have an illness and should not be insulted. Mean descriptions would not be used for overweight women because it would seem insensitive. Even at my thinest, I always felt like a woman, yes a "real" woman. I always liked eating, sex, and life which Dr. Johanson says are liked by women who have flesh on their bones. I guess not by women who don't. Well she can kiss my skinny white ass! And of course a thin man would just be thought of as thin, not anorexic. Why is it that men can weigh 100 pounds or 350 pounds and do not face the same scrutiny! |
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| MyOwnRules | |
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She wasn't saying "all" models are anorexic. She's saying that looking at the ones who are anorexic it's gross.
| Jake400 | |
| OK ladies. First, guys look at gals admiring their best qualities, where women look at themselves and spot the worst quality. Second, its not what you got, its how you use it. Great looking gals can be rotten in bed; and regular woman can be fuckalious! If your guy is hard and all over you, your body can't be that bad! RJ | |
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