“What makes you feel sexy? For some it is listening to a great playlist, dancing around naked, or even the entire ritual of bathing, shaving and sensually lotioning up your legs and body. You can also watch a movie that gets you in the mood, too,” Levkoff says.

Dr. Barnaby B. Barratt, sex therapist and director of the Center for Tantric Spirituality, www.CenterForTantricSpirituality.org and author of 10 Keys to Successful Sexual Partnering, says the absolute most important thing couples can do during sex is communicate what they want.

“People tend to [have sex] running scripts in their heads of how it’s supposed to be and it takes you out of the experience,” Barratt says. “You need to be very present and communicate. Pay attention to what your partner wants, don’t just follow a script."