Many guys say that the difference between snooze-worthy and sensational sex lies in what women do with our mouths. Actually, most doctors say the same thing. According to the experts, sexual communicationthe art of letting your lover know exactly how to make you moan with pleasureis the key factor in determining whether your night will end with OH! OH! or an uncomfortable its time for me to go. Here are the dos and don'ts for healthier, more intimate sex.

Warming Up Do: Get Verbal
Before jumping into the sack, Dr. Barnaby Barratt, President of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, recommends verbally letting your partner know exactly what you want. One of the pitfalls of nonverbal communication is ambiguity, he states. Making desires verbal is helpful. If we have to ask Is it ok to hold hands?, it automatically makes us own our actions. Owning your actions and desires, not only shows your partner how to be a more fulfilling lover, it also causes you to feel erotically empowered and theres nothing sexier than that.

Warming Up Dont: Keep It Clinical
While sexual communication should be frequent and direct, Kristin, 24, warns that nothing kills the lovemakin mood faster than using clinical language. Scientific discussion should never take place in the bedroom, she says. No vaginas or penis talk. You can be subtle and sexy and still communicate your desires. To keep things in spicy mode, ditch words youd use with your gyno and stick with phrases that accompany action, such as I love it when you touch me here or This feels really nice.

In the Moment Do: Show and Tell
The fastest way to let him know what you wantwhat you really wantis simply to show your partner what you like, says Dr. Alice Ladas, co-author of The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality. The way people experience pleasure is very varied, she comments. Some women learn to bring themselves to climax by rubbing their legs together. Others do it by rubbing a pillow against the clitoris its important for the man to know that his partner needs her legs somewhat close together or needs a combined stimulation of the clitoris and vagina. Sexy and assertive at the same time, giving your partner a free pass to Your Body 101 guarantees fewer bedroom fumbles.