Another way to switch up being on top is to change locations, specifically to a chair. Dr. Joy Davidson, sex therapist and creator of The Joy Spot, says this sexual position (where you basically sit on his lap) can make all the difference for women who may not like traditional cowgirl. Because the angle of penetration is different and you’re very close together, it can give you new sensations and offers a lot of clitoral stimulation.

“Furniture matters; don’t reject the position until you’ve tried every piece of furniture in your house,” she says.

© iStock/Lise Gagne Rolling with it.
Okay, so you’ve got your arms, legs and maybe your chair positioned, now what do you do? Start moving—and here’s how:

Up and down—This move is great for him, not quite as much for you though since the clitoral stimulation you’re getting is stopping and starting.

Rocking your hips—You get maximum stimulation from his penis pushing against you and you rubbing your clitoris against him.