Rotating your hips—Figure eights, side to side, circular motions…try them all and see what works best for you.

Moving to the side—You don’t have to stay centered all the time. You can lift up, move your hips to the side and come back down or go in a circle. This move will hit spots you don’t normally get in normal up and down moves and may feel surprisingly good for him too.

The most important thing after experimenting with sexual positions is to get in a rhythm once you’ve found a few moves you like. Dr. Allison says it’s like dancing, so think of a beat and keep moving. You can even put on music if that helps.

© iStock/Davina Graham The grand finale.
You’ve heard the hype about how easy it is to orgasm in this position and now we’re going to help you do it. One of the advantages to cowgirl is that your partner’s hands are free, so put them to work! He can be stimulating you all over with his hands, a vibrator, whatever you want.