Dr. Barnaby B. Barratt, sex therapist and director of the Center for Tantric Spirituality, says being on top also helps you breathe more easily, which is key for reaching orgasm.

Dr. Allison offers a little known tip for orgasming on top: tilt your pelvis forward. It sounds so simple, but what that does is flatten your vulva onto his pubic area. Then, if you move your hips in circular motions without lifting up, you’re getting lots of clitoral stimulation (By basically masturbating on top of him. Don’t worry, he won’t mind.) and he gets to feel inside you—everyone wins!

© iStock/Stanislav Komogorov Feeling on top when you’re on top.
Some women avoid this sexual position because they feel self-conscious about their bodies—from our boobs and stomach jiggling to our concerns about him supporting our weight when we’re on top—and it is true that you’re pretty exposed up there. But there are some tricks you can try to feel more confident.