|Can you have an orgasim and just not know it? I think it's hard because there's no sure fire way to know you're having one, right? People always say...oh, you'll know, but I think I have one, but just haven't been 100% certain. Men are so lucky. They know exactly what it is they're looking for.|
You are so right. I am twenty nine years old and was not sure if I had ever had an orgasm until I was twenty six. I kept telling myself maybe that was one. Or that could have been. I never felt the way I did when I was pleasuring myself as I did when I was with a man. Until I found the man I trusted enough to go there with. I didn't like hearing Oh. . .you'll know because I didn't. Until I did. Just like you will. I had almost given up on ever getting to experience one with a man . I'm so glad I didn't. I still don't have them very often. I have been with the same man for over three years, so I'm still learning I can trust him. I just get in my head a lot. I still worry I'm not doing it right. But when I focus on feeling good for me it makes him feel good.
I read that women can have different types of orgasms to, so maybe your having one that doesn't sound like what other women experience. Just keep exploring. DON'T JUDGE YOUR EXPIRIENCE
|The more a woman comes, the more she comes. Wife needs it nightly to come easily. After a few days its nearly impossible to get her there. She just learned to be comfortable feeling herself up in front of me til she came. It gets her over the first O so she can have multiples after that, and its hot! She asked me to do the same for her. Alls fair in love... RJ|
|My first lover didn't come for 18 months and wasn't sure the whole time. She said she felt good but wasn't real sure if she came or not. She did not masterbate, so she never knew for sure. She just needed a secure place to make love. We got a motel for a weekend and right away she came so hard her body shook! We didn't do anything different, it was just knowing no one could walk in or interrupt her. My wife never came during sex until we made love when she was 35, and she's been making up for lost time since. Her vaginal spasms are so strong that we come together without trying to do so. Tell your guy your thoughts about orgasms. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you're probably not comfortable doing him nude either, in which case, the big question isn't about Os at all, but about you and him and why you're doing him. Right chemistry with the right guy, & you'll explode! Yes, wife has different types of Os. Clitoral is just once and then she's really sensative there for a long time. Vaginal has no limits; I still don't know how many orgasms are her maximum - partly hard to count after about 7 because her noises are all I can gage it by at that stage, and partly because I can't do her more than 3 or 4 times in a good night, she needs the stamina of a second coupling to go all the way to 10+. Its worth it to get your guy to do you again (and again if possible) because he can last in you longer and hit that g-spot over and over! But you've got to be cool talking about it! And so does he. We love the sexy communication! Good luck, RJ|
|I think that someone would know if they are having an orgasm, unless it is really weak. If you suddenly feel a intense sensation that feels really good even if its slight, your having an orgasm. why some women don't have them could be because they are not comfortable, there's no passion or roamnce, they are insecure, they're not in orgasm friendly positions, ect. thye list goes on basically be comfortable with yourself, him and the palce you're in. Also make sure you are in a position that you like and is more likely to get you closer to an orgams like the cowgirl or ontop is the best. Foreplay is very important, if a man can give your brain and orgasm, its likely he will give you a very intense vaginal orgasm. if turning him on turns you on, do all you can to get him as hot as a summer day in the sahara. Woman have actually got close to an orgasm while pleasuring their man. i have also found out that its hard to have an orgasn if you have to pee during sex, so got to the bathroom before just to make sure. One last tip say something if you don't climax! politley say to your man during or after sex that you dont think you came, he may feel bummed out at first, but tell him that maybe you two can do it again and while you do, tell him what to do. if he does something that you like a lot tell him to keep going. get on top and do what ever makes you explode the sight of you in extacy will make him explode as well.|