The Truth About Sex Addiction
SM: What about characters like Samantha on Sex and the City, she just seems to like sex, but could she be considered an addict?
Pinsky: Samantha absolutely was a sex addict, categorically. In fact, I know a woman who lived with that person who the character was fashioned after, and she became a prostitute and died of cocaine addiction. I was so angry about Sex and the City, because [of] all three of those women, the [Cynthia] Nixon character was the only one that wasn’t sick. The other three were desperately, mentally ill. It was not portrayed or thought of that way when in fact that’s what it was.
SM: Why would Samantha’s behavior be a problem?
Pinsky: Addiction is a fatal disease. Whether it is sex addiction or cocaine addiction or heroin addiction, it is a progressive illness and the consequences get worse with time. It may be a slow progression and it may not progress to fatality. But it always progresses towards fatal. For instance, we look at Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan and Nicole Richie and people are like ‘oh boy, such childish behavior.’ No, two of those women will be dead within the next five years. We’ve already lost Anna Nicole [Smith] to the same disease.
According to SexHelp.com, research shows some of the repercussions reported by sexual addicts include: loss of partner or spouse (40%), unwanted pregnancies (40%), suicidal obsession (72%), exposure to AIDS and venereal disease (68%), and legal risks from nuisance offenses to rape (58%).
SM: How does someone become a sex addict?
Pinsky: At least 60% of all addictions are accounted for based on genetics alone. You need to see some history of alcoholism or addiction somewhere in the family. The second thing is a history of childhood sexual abuse. So you add a family history of alcoholism or addiction to childhood sexual abuse and you’ve pretty much got your recipe. There are other people that develop sexual addiction as a part of a general addiction.
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I love sex and the city, but never actually thought of them as "sex addicts." Yes, maybe sexually promiscuous, but Dr. Drew is right, they omit the negative side of these actions on the show. There was never an episode with Carrie getting herpes or Samantha getting AIDS...
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After my divorce, I believe I was falling into the initial stages of a sexual addiction. I've never had problems with any other form of addiction, but I felt very stuck. I had a friend who was brutally honest with me and helped me out of it. I think I'm back on track now, but it can be a little scary.
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THANK YOU, DR. DREW!! You finally voiced what I've been thinking all along: the women on Sex and the City are quite literally unstable paradigms for our society. I found it sad that young women wanted to emulate their behavior. It was so shallow and none of them actually formed healthy relationships because (DUH!) it was all about sex! I just hope that more women read your article before the movie comes out and revisits their whole philosophy of what I like to call bologna "love"
p.s. I've always been a fan of yours :o)
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Wow! What a different way to think of some of my favorite characters! You do have a point, though, Dr. Drew. Too many girls are growing up hoping to model their behavior.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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i am hiding my identity as i don't want any kind of contact with my family.
my question is that do men can be pregnant by any mean or method ?
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i am hiding my identity as i don't want any kind of contact with my family.
1.my question is that do men can be pregnant by any mean or method ?
2.rarely my classmate intercourses with me unsafe . we both are males. does it may cause any side effects if he is not having any kind of disease related with sex.
3.one day he ejaculated inside my body through my ass hole and kept his penis inside for upto an hour to which i was unable to wash it[unafe intercourse]. does it effects any kind of problem in future. as i know that sperms eggs live inside body till 2weeks.
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I am concealing my identity as well but I need some advice. I am a sex addict. My fiancee and I do it anywhere from 1 to 4 times a day. Now, I enjoy it verrrryyy much, however I have a problem. I have never orgasmed from sex alone. So I have been faking orgasms for almost 2 years now. We have done other things during sex. I can't orgasm. I do fine by myself or just him giving me oral but anything else and it just doesn't happen so I'm left pleasing myself once he leaves the room. HELP!
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