The Truth About Sex Addiction
SM: Why is there such a strong link between childhood sexual abuse and sex addiction later on in life?
Pinksy: The extraordinary thing about the human being is that experiences that are overwhelming and terrifying in childhood become very attractive and compulsively so after puberty. Freud used to call it repetition compulsion, where people re-enact the traumas of their past. This is why most strippers and prostitutes have a sexual abuse history. They’re really re-enacting the trauma over and over again.
SM: What is the mindset of an addict?
Pinsky: Here’s what they’re thinking: I want to get high. I want to use, I want to have sex. That’s what they’re thinking, period. Literally the brain’s survival systems become tricked in this disease, where the ongoing behavior becomes synonymous with survival and not caving to the behavior is synonymous with suicide. So the brain feels like it’s committing suicide when it tries not to do these things.
SM: What affect has the Internet, and Internet porn, had on sex addiction?
Pinsky: It’s like crack. It’s brought people into it that might not have manifested the disease had it not been [for] this readily available stimulus. It is increasing the incidents. It’s like having a stronger drug more readily available.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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Wow! What a different way to think of some of my favorite characters! You do have a point, though, Dr. Drew. Too many girls are growing up hoping to model their behavior.
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THANK YOU, DR. DREW!! You finally voiced what I've been thinking all along: the women on Sex and the City are quite literally unstable paradigms for our society. I found it sad that young women wanted to emulate their behavior. It was so shallow and none of them actually formed healthy relationships because (DUH!) it was all about sex! I just hope that more women read your article before the movie comes out and revisits their whole philosophy of what I like to call bologna "love"
p.s. I've always been a fan of yours :o)
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After my divorce, I believe I was falling into the initial stages of a sexual addiction. I've never had problems with any other form of addiction, but I felt very stuck. I had a friend who was brutally honest with me and helped me out of it. I think I'm back on track now, but it can be a little scary.
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I love sex and the city, but never actually thought of them as "sex addicts." Yes, maybe sexually promiscuous, but Dr. Drew is right, they omit the negative side of these actions on the show. There was never an episode with Carrie getting herpes or Samantha getting AIDS...
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