The Truth About Sex Addiction
MedicineNet.com lists several behaviors that could be considered part of sex addiction. Some include: compulsive masturbation, multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs), multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands, consistent use of pornography, unsafe sex, phone or computer sex, prostitution or using prostitutes, exhibitionism, and obsessive dating through personal ads.
SM: What about characters like Samantha on Sex and the City, she just seems to like sex, but could she be considered an addict?
Pinsky: Samantha absolutely was a sex addict, categorically. In fact, I know a woman who lived with that person who the character was fashioned after, and she became a prostitute and died of cocaine addiction. I was so angry about Sex and the City, because [of] all three of those women, the [Cynthia] Nixon character was the only one that wasn’t sick. The other three were desperately, mentally ill. It was not portrayed or thought of that way when in fact that’s what it was.
SM: Why would Samantha’s behavior be a problem?
Pinsky: Addiction is a fatal disease. Whether it is sex addiction or cocaine addiction or heroin addiction, it is a progressive illness and the consequences get worse with time. It may be a slow progression and it may not progress to fatality. But it always progresses towards fatal. For instance, we look at Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan and Nicole Richie and people are like ‘oh boy, such childish behavior.’ No, two of those women will be dead within the next five years. We’ve already lost Anna Nicole [Smith] to the same disease.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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I have to agree with Dr. Drew regarding Sex and the City. The characters were meant to be exaggerations of people, not people in real life, and I'm afraid some women have taken what they stand for (women empowerment) as being literal.
I believe I read an interview with Lindsay Lohan saying Sex and the City "inspired" her to date as many men as possible. Funny she said that since it proves what Dr. Drew is arguing.
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Wow! What a different way to think of some of my favorite characters! You do have a point, though, Dr. Drew. Too many girls are growing up hoping to model their behavior.
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THANK YOU, DR. DREW!! You finally voiced what I've been thinking all along: the women on Sex and the City are quite literally unstable paradigms for our society. I found it sad that young women wanted to emulate their behavior. It was so shallow and none of them actually formed healthy relationships because (DUH!) it was all about sex! I just hope that more women read your article before the movie comes out and revisits their whole philosophy of what I like to call bologna "love"
p.s. I've always been a fan of yours :o)
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After my divorce, I believe I was falling into the initial stages of a sexual addiction. I've never had problems with any other form of addiction, but I felt very stuck. I had a friend who was brutally honest with me and helped me out of it. I think I'm back on track now, but it can be a little scary.
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I love sex and the city, but never actually thought of them as "sex addicts." Yes, maybe sexually promiscuous, but Dr. Drew is right, they omit the negative side of these actions on the show. There was never an episode with Carrie getting herpes or Samantha getting AIDS...
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