I applaud your resourcefulness with water and pillows: Many women have discovered the joys of self-love using these methods (myself included!). It’s only natural that you might want to try a vibrator—for one thing, you won’t have to take a bath every time you get turned on! Vibrators are popular because they provide direct, focused vibration. There are plenty of wonderful first-timer vibrators, so what you choose really depends on what kind of stimulation you prefer. Here are a few I recommend:

  • Wahl 7-in-1: This vibrator provides fast, focused stimulation on the clitoris, plus it’s nearly silent which makes it great for folks who have roommates or kids. It looks a lot like a handheld electric mixer—appealing to those who’d rather have their sex toys look more like household appliances than actual body parts.
  • Fukuoku: This is a powerful little vibrator that slips over you fingertip—perfect if you like manual masturbation but you need a little extra oomph. It’s also great for partner play, as your lover can wear it and use it on you in a variety of positions.
  • Pocket Rocket: A small, portable, but powerful vibrator designed for clitoral stimulation that also comes in a waterproof version known as the Waterdancer.
  • Rabbit Habit Vibrator: This is the vibrator made famous on Sex and the City. It’s got an insertable shaft with rotating pearls to stimulate your G-spot, plus an attachment that vibrates your clitoris at the same time.