“It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” --Marlene Dietrich
There is nothing better than having close girlfriends—people to laugh, cry and talk with for hours. A Harvard Study even found that the more friends a woman has, the healthier she’ll be as she ages*. Whether you have many or just a few, when it comes to girlfriends you can always have some more. Here are a few simple ways to make new friends.
Hang Out with Coworkers.
You spend more than 40 hours a week with these people, but that doesn’t mean you should skip the office happy hour. Consider them your built-in social network. My friend Linda was nervous when she moved to Michigan to start a new job. “I left all my friends and family at home,” she says. But now she’s close with her mostly male coworkers—and their wives and girlfriends. “Now I’m constantly meeting people who are becoming part of my circle.”
Work Your Alumni Association.
Alumni organizations are great social (and career networking) opportunities. Many organize outings, volunteer opportunities, happy hours and more. Having gone to the same school as the other attendees gives you an instant topic of conversation.
Use the Internet.
One great tool is MeetUp.com, a website that connects people with shared interests. There are hundreds of MeetUp groups in big cities and small alike, catering to people who like to go to movies, take photographs, discuss politics and even hunt for ghosts. And if you don’t click with a group, there’s no obligation to return.
And Facebook isn’t just a way for you to let the world know your taste in music and movies. Once you join your regional network, scope out your close friends’ profiles and see if they have any friends living nearby. You can ask your buddies to set you up on blind friendship dates.
|This article is right-on! I've started going out socially with co-workers, found friends of friends on facebook, and just last night I went out for coffee with an alum from my college, and we ended up talking for hours!! It's not easy, but I'm starting to build a network of post-college, real-world friends :)|
|the alumni association! that is so true. i love mine at my school, it really keeps me connected to others.|
|I think hanging out with your co-workers is a great idea! Work then becomes a place where you get to spend time with your friends!|
I moved home after college and NONE of my university friends were nearby. So I decided to talk to my old high school friends I haven't seen in ages. I looked them up on myspace and facebook and we now have been getting together after work...and it's been really fun making up for lost time.
I also recommend joining a running club--but more specifically, join a team in training. There are a lot of great organizations out there, like the Leukemia Lymphoma Race for a Cure, that allow you to make great friends and accomplish something really important. My friend is training for a Marathon in October and meeting such great people...it has motivated me to want to do it too!
I'm so glad I read this article. I just moved half way across the country with my boyfriend to a city where neither of us knows anyone (we needed a change), so it's been hard for both of us to find friends. He's made friends with some coworkers because he works with people his own age. I like my coworkers, but they're all 40-year-old men with wives and families, and I'm a twenty-something female, so that doesn't exactly scream "Hey, let's do lunch and go shopping this weekend."
I'm going to start to put these tips to good use.
|It feels like its so much easier to connect with men. I long for good girl friends like I have back home. Since I have moved to a larger city its been hard to find women I can trust that are in my same age range. I tend to spend my quality women to women time with ladies that are twice my age. Thats okay with me because they have a lot to teach me. I'm just not sure what I'm bring to them. Maybe I help them laugh. If there are any women in there early twenties that want to connect with me. . here I am.|