It’s the first time in five years that I’ve been close to having a boyfriend and I may have just scared him away. I was cool in the beginning—not too desperate, moved along slowly and steadily. But then last weekend he was away, and I got a little (okay, a lot) excited about him/ us. I ended up calling and texting him about 10 times in two days, leaving clingy “I’m so into you” messages. Last night he gave me the “I think we should slow things down” talk, saying he’s used to his space and didn’t realize I was the type to be so “dependent.” I want him to want me again. Is there any way I can redeem my cool? Or is this a ship I need to jump?