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Bachelor Parties—most men have them and unless you’re a stripper you probably have no clue what goes down at one. But you don’t have to wonder anymore. We interviewed David Boyer, author of Bachelor Party Confidential: A Real-Life Peak Behind a Closed-Door Tradition,who gave us the full scoop on this male mystery.

Savvy Miss: What goes on during a typical bachelor party?
David Boyer: [laughs] A typical bachelor party is probably a dinner with thoughts of going to a strip club that either happens or doesn’t. If it does, it’s often quick and pretty painless, but there are plenty of examples where that’s not the case and it does get a little crazier. If there’s one thing [bachelor parties] have in common it’s that they all use that Tom Hanks Bachelor Party [movie] as a point of reference.

SM: How many parties would you say hire strippers or go to strip clubs?
DB: I would say somewhere near one in two. And how many times it comes up is probably more, it just depends on how many guys get it together to actually plan it. Men aren’t always good at planning things, so I think there’re a lot of plans that don’t ever come to fruition.

SM: How many men would you say do something that could be considered cheating at a bachelor party?
DB: One thing I learned is that the groom is a little bit less likely than his friends to do something; and I think the married men are more likely to do something. This came up over and over when I was talking to strippers and talking to married men. It’s his friends that [are more likely to] get an extra-curricular activity, whatever that may be—a blow job, a hand job or further—because all eyes aren’t on the friends and for a lot of guys it is a chance to let their hair down.