What is it now, like one out of three marriages will end in divorce? Two out of four? Point is, a lot of people are getting divorced - so who better to get some marriage advice from than the folks doing all the divorcing. Here's a look at marriage advice from divorce attorneys...
Sadly, after many of us tie the knot, we’ll later visit a divorce attorney. These lawyers have seen it all and know exactly what causes marriages to fail. Fortunately for us, they also have a lot of insight on what makes couples succeed and with their advice you may never have to visit their offices. Bad for business, but great for you.
I hope that you will read [this advice] often if you are married, before you remarry if you have been divorced, and, if you are considering marriage for the first time, take [it] to heart before you tie the knot.
Marriage is a very serious business. It is the biggest financial and personal transaction of your life. You need to look at the other person and realize that you are not going to change them. Ask yourself this: “Does this individual have the basic qualities that matter to me; characteristic traits that aren’t going to change over time?” It is not all about the cake, the wedding planner, your gifts and your dress. It takes a lot of work to make it work. –Mabry De Buys, Seattle, Wa.
No one should get married under 30. When you are under 30 your expectations are immature concerning the real world. You haven’t lived long enough to know the flavor of the world. –Marna Tucker, Washington, D.C.
There is a whole lack of knowledge about what makes a healthy marriage. Spouses need to deal early on with money, sex, in-laws, deciding who is going to raise the kids, and who is going to work. Or, if both spouses are going to go to work, they need to decide how they are going to share the responsibilities of the house. –Elizabeth Lindsay, Atlanta, Ga.