When a reader had a question about dealing with a guy who was a little too fast in bed, Savvy Miss turned to sex and relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D., for his expert opinion.

Dear Ian,
How do I deal with a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation?

As someone who has personally grappled with and, ahem, overcome, PE, I can tell you firsthand that it's no fun being too fast in the sack. When I was struggling with PE, I felt terribly alone, but according to a survey of 900 women conducted by Cosmopolitan and MensHealth.com, nearly two-thirds of women have had sex with a man who experienced premature ejaculation. In my experience as a sex therapist, men with PE report less satisfaction and more anxiety about their sexual relationships. It can wreck their confidence and cause them to avoid new relationships altogether.

But misery doesn't deserve company, especially yours. So what can you do with a guy who's quick on the trigger? Follow my signature three-step process: — Please, Squeeze, At Ease — to help him step on the brakes and savor the trip:

Step 1: Please
Look, if your guy suffers from PE, you don't have to get into a whole angst-ridden conversation about it that's going to make both of you feel like getting on a "fast track" away from each other. In fact, you can work on his problem without him ever knowing you know it's a problem. And you can make it a whole lot of fun.