When a Savvy Miss member had the following question, we turned to Gloria Brame for her expert opinion.

Lately I’ve been bored with sex. My boyfriend is traditional so every time we do it, we do it on the bed. I’m spontaneous and like to do it anytime, anywhere. One night, after dinner and drinks, I tried to seduce him in a public park. The next day, he told me I should be careful when I drink. I didn’t tell him that I would have fooled around in the park sober. He’s my ideal man in every way, except as a sexual partner. Are we doomed?

Do you know why your boyfriend doesn't want to be more adventurous? There are a lot of reasons why people resist creative sex. They may be self-conscious about their body, shy or inexperienced; or they could lack the self-confidence to experiment with new things. Have you tried explaining that you need more spice to keep things interesting?

If his hang-up runs deeper and he has religious or moral issues about how people are supposed to enjoy sex, you could be in for a lifetime of sexual frustration with this man. It's time to rethink what you really mean by "ideal.” If he can't satisfy you sexually, is he really ideal for you?

If you are the more imaginative and free-spirited one in the relationship, it will be up to you to take the lead. But drinking is always the wrong way to go about sex. For one, we all know drunken people say and do things they regret the next day. He may have thought he was protecting you by not trusting what you wanted to do while drunk. Meanwhile, if you can't talk to him openly about sex and if you need to be drunk to try something new, maybe you have some inhibitions yourself. You need to find a much better—and sober—way of communicating your needs to him. It's possible that he would be willing to try new things if you asked for what you want, instead of trying to manipulate him into doing them.