phone sex, what to say during phone sex

When a Savvy Miss member had the following question, we turned to Miranda Austin for her expert opinion on how to have phone sex.
 
I want to have phone sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t know what to say. All I can think of is “What are you wearing?” and, well, it seems a little trite. What should I say during phone sex?

There’s a reason the phrase “what are you wearing?” has become almost a phone sex cliché: It works! It’s sexy for your partner to hear you talk about what you’re doing to yourself, especially if he thinks he inspired it. So when you're having phone sex tell him exactly what you’re wearing, precisely how it feels to slip off each piece of clothing and every little detail about what else your fingers are doing. Now, it’s not necessary to be one hundred percent accurate about your clothing. Even if you’re wearing sweats, feel free to tell your sweetie that it’s his favorite red lace thong and matching bra. You also don’t have to actually do everything you say you’re doing when you're having phone sex, but it’s a lot more fun that way.

If you’re not ready to be graphic yet, relax. Detail trumps explicit language every time. After all, sex isn’t just about the parts down there. The key to having great phone sex is to be as descriptive as you can. “I’m brushing my lips across the back of your neck…you can feel my warm breath right between your shoulder blades, as I start lightly kissing down your spine…” Going into specifics will make your partner feel more connected to you during phone sex. You know your lover’s body, so use that knowledge to make him feel like you’re there with him. No generic dirty phrase will ever compare with, “Imagine that I’m tracing that sexy little mole on your left hip with my fingernail.”