Rethink the Missionary Position: Three Ways to Spice up a Classic

Our sex survey produced a lot of fascinating results, but one in particular stuck with us: the fact that 37% of women chose the missionary position as their favorite, yet only 12% say it brings them to orgasm. Hmmm...

So why do we love missionary? Itís probably not because weíre lazy. For many, itís associated with ďmaking loveĒ and weíll sacrifice an orgasm to feel connected with our partners. Thatís nice and all, but who says we canít have both: the intimacy and the amazing orgasms? Below are three ways to step up the sensations during missionary, without sacrificing the connectivity.

Missionary Makeover No. 1: Make like a C.A.T.
No, donít get down on all fours (thatís another position entirely), but rather, try the Coital Alignment Technique. Basically, the man raises himself up so that heís closer to a 90 degree angle from the woman. The most important thing is to have either the shaft of his penis or his pubic mound (the area right above his penis) against her clitoris.

ď[Itís] the riding high idea. Heís coming out of her further so his pelvic bone is stroking her clitoris. Heís not thrusting as deep so itís more of a rocking motion between the two of them, so her clitoris is being stimulated more consistently,Ē says Dr. Joy Davidson, sex therapist and creator of The Joy Spot.

However, she cautions that this method isnít foolproof.

ďIt doesnít work very well for people who like a lot of deep thrusting, especially women who are more responsive to pressure up near the cervix. It may be [better] using it at various points in the love making instead of something you do all the time,Ē Davidson says.